Some positive stress is actually good for us.
That’s right there is such a thing as positive stress…
If we had no stress at all, we would be totally and utterly bored. Excitement and engagement with something creates some positive stress. Some stress, in small quantities, can actually heighten our thinking and our abilities to push beyond our ordinary boundaries.
Of course, these are not the stresses we are trying to manage. When we talk of stress, we usually mean dis-stress, which can cause many of the following symptoms:
• Low energy.
• Upset stomach, including diarrhoea, constipation, and nausea.
• Aches, pains, and tense muscles.
• Chest pain and rapid heartbeat.
• Frequent colds and infections.
• Loss of sexual desire and/or ability.
Learning to manage distress is part of emotional intelligence. Some people have a natural ability to be less stressed, yet we all needed to learn how to navigate the stressors in our life. Many of us didn’t have great role modelling on how to manage stress well or how to let go of unhelpful thinking.
I believe that most people who are suffering with stress are missing some effective skills to change their way of thinking and feeling around their stress. They feel that stress is the enemy, when in fact it is our warning system that can be stuck in the ON position.